These Personality Types Are the Most Compatible With INFJs
In relationships, not everyone understands the rare INFJ, so some personality types will be more compatible with INFJs than others.
When it comes to INFJ compatibility, most websites repeat the same advice: Our “ideal” match is the ENTP, the “Debater” personality type.
Then, there is almost always a statement about how any two personality types can make a romantic relationship work if they try hard enough. For instance, an INFJ can date any personality type — even an ESTP, our complete opposite — and it can be successful if both partners are committed to making the relationship work.
This sentiment is indeed true. INFJs can have good relationships with anyone. When INFJs fall in love, they fall hard. However, some types naturally will be more compatible with INFJs than others.
Why? Because INFJs tend to have high standards for themselves and their relationships. We seek specific qualities in partners and friends. We value intelligence, honesty, authenticity, creativity, passion, and kindness. Of course, there are other qualities we look for, but those depend greatly on the individual INFJ.
Also, as INFJs are the rarest personality type, making up only 1-2 percent of the population, we won’t click with just anyone.
(Are you an INFJ? Here are 16 signs that you’re an INFJ, the world’s rarest personality type.)
This article is based on my own personal experience as an INFJ and the relationships I have formed with other Myers-Briggs personality types. This information may not apply to every INFJ or the other personality types described below, but it is based on the patterns of behavior I have observed in my lifetime.
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INFJ Compatibility: The Best Matches for Romantic Relationships
Should an INFJ Date an Extrovert?
Let’s begin with extroverts. Extroverts are fun and exciting to be around. INFJs are often mistaken for extroverts, as we are fascinated by people and tend to have good social skills. That’s why INFJs are often described as extroverted introverts.
Extroverts provide the socializing that we need, and they push us outside of our comfort zones, perhaps giving us experiences we’ve never had before. Most of my closest relationships have been with extroverts, because we balance each other in a complementary way. I love that they are always willing to spend time with me. Some extroverted personality types are less social than others, and these are the ones I mesh with the best. They are social and talkative, but they also respect my need for quiet and calm.
There are two extroverted personality types that I find to be very compatible with me as an INFJ.
ENFP (“The Inspirer”)
The ENFPs I have known are full of life. What I love most about them is their truly free-spirited nature. They bring out the free-thinking, independent, and creative sides of my INFJ personality. Thanks to their exceptional intuition, ENFPs know how and when to approach more reserved personalities like mine. They are sensitive to social dynamics and enjoy connecting with people from all walks of life. ENFPs make life a little brighter for everyone they meet.
In my opinion, INFJs and ENFPs make a great romantic match because they connect deeply on an emotional level and both want a meaningful relationship. However, they approach romance differently; INFJs are more careful and think about the future, while ENFPs are outgoing and focus on enjoying the present. Despite these differences, they can have a very rewarding relationship. INFJs bring stability, and ENFPs bring fun, helping each other grow and enjoy life together.
ENFJ (“The Giver”)
Most of my closest friends are ENFJs. It’s like we are magnetically drawn to each other. I’m not kidding. For lack of a better term, ENFJs have strong personalities. The ENFJs I’ve known are incredibly passionate. INFJs also have strong convictions, but they tend to keep these more private.
Communication is absolutely essential in an ENFJ/INFJ relationship. As “feelers,” spending quality time together and having deep conversations is crucial for us. Talking deeply about our passions brings us closer. However, it’s important to understand our different energy needs. INFJs are introverted and recharge by spending time alone, while ENFJs are extroverted and gain energy from being around people. This difference can sometimes lead to clashes, especially when it comes to social events. Despite these challenges, I believe ENFJs and INFJs get along well because we both deeply care and strive to make the world a better place.
Should an INFJ Date Another Introvert?
One clear advantage of dating another introvert is their understanding of our need for alone time. It’s incredibly comforting when someone gets why you value quiet time and doesn’t question you when you’re deep in thought. I’ve made friends with several introverts over the years. These are the friends I meet for coffee or spend the day with lounging around, watching movies, or reading. Being with other introverts doesn’t drain my energy; in fact, some of them actually energize me.
There are four introverted personality types that I find very compatible with me as an INFJ.
INTJ (“The Scientist”)
Ah, the INTJ. There isn’t another introverted type that I am more hopelessly drawn to than this one. They are quick-witted, intelligent, and decisive, relying on logic above all else. This is exactly how we differ, and it’s also why I value their personality so much. As an INFJ, I can get caught up in my emotions, so it’s refreshing to be around someone more grounded in logic. While some might see the INTJ’s lack of emotional expression as cold or distant, from another perspective, they can be very loving and thoughtful.
It’s not that INTJs lack emotions, and the beauty of the INFJ/INTJ relationship is that INFJs can see this. INTJs are generally cautious about who they trust and are particularly careful about revealing their emotions and a rich inner world. They’re kind of like crabs — tough on the outside but with a soft inner core. Unlike INFJs, who are usually very open with their emotions and comfortable with vulnerability, INTJs may not be as open. However, they can make a great romantic match because both value quality time and intellectual conversations. If the INFJ can create a safe emotional space, the INTJ will feel comfortable showing their inner world.
INFP (“The Idealist”)
Although they differ by just one letter in their labels, INFJs and INFPs are quite different personality types. The INFPs in my life can sometimes frustrate me with their lack of planning and punctuality, as mundane tasks bore them. However, I truly admire them. INFPs are bright and beautiful people to be around. As ultimate idealists, they view the world through rose-colored glasses, remain optimistic, and value harmony in their relationships.
When it comes to romance, the chemistry between INFJs and INFPs is undeniable due to their shared values and emotional intelligence. These introverted feelers relate deeply to each other, understanding and responding well to each other’s moods and emotions. This natural alignment might make the early days of dating move quickly, and together, they can make an ideal team to fulfill their visions. I hope every INFJ has the chance to know at least one INFP in their lifetime — the INFPs I know have changed my life.
INTP (“The Logician”)
In the world of personality theory, the INTP and INFJ pairing is often called “The Golden Pair” because these two types are supposed to be highly compatible. I have personally known only one INTP, who has played a significant role in my life. When we met, we immediately felt comfortable together, and I felt understood for the first time. As both of us are introverts, neither of us pushed the other to be overly social. We both enjoyed thoughtful, meaningful conversations (not just small talk) and seemed to understand each other’s inner worlds very well. This mutual understanding made us feel less alone and less different from others. The INFJ/INTP relationship can be very special because both types are rare, with INTPs making up 3 percent and INFJs 2 percent of the population.
Although INTPs are mostly focused on logic and INFJs on emotion, these two types complement each other well if they maintain balance. INTPs are constantly seeking information and tend to be deep thinkers, much like INFJs. The INFJ appreciates the INTP’s logical approach, while the INTP values the INFJ’s natural mystique. While INTPs can grow bored easily, the INFJ’s readiness to have deep conversations and question things keeps them interested.
INFJ-INFJ Relationship
INFJ-INFJ relationships have a clear advantage: They deeply understand each other because they are the same personality type. I get along with other INFJs almost seamlessly. Both of us love to share our life lessons and theories, so we usually have a close and caring connection. We both have a compassionate and idealistic nature, and even if we disagree on some things, we find that when it comes to the important stuff, we’re on the same page.
I often find we can almost read each other’s minds, sensing feelings before they’re even expressed. This makes us really good at meeting each other’s needs since we intuitively understand what the other person is looking for. Because INFJs often feel misunderstood, being with someone who gets us so well is very comforting and can lead to a strong relationship.
Moreover, INFJs tend to be excellent communicators and thrive in relationships. We put a lot of effort into our relationships, and this proactive approach helps us make things work. We naturally prioritize emotional intimacy and are keen to discuss and maintain the health of the relationship, which means it probably won’t be neglected. An INFJ-INFJ relationship can be a rare but beautiful connection.
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