Comments on: Feeling Drained? Here Are 12 Signs You Have an Introvert Hangover

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 02 Jan 2018 20:42:00 +0000

In reply to Patrick. You become a zombie:/

By: Mary Henry

Mary Henry — Wed, 27 Dec 2017 17:26:00 +0000

I think we are not necessarily introverts. I think we are sane, sober adults that are surrounded by a lot of very immature people that somehow thrive on loud, obnoxious behavior. Or, perhaps we are all the same but they drink to cope. I have noticed that the only way anyone can stand hours upon hours of “visiting” are those that have been drinking. I truly enjoy the first couple of hours – when it starts getting loud, people are slurring and becoming laughing hyenas, it’s time to leave and I do. However, I find I never really look forward to these parties because we try to cram too much in one day. My problem is doing too much. Christmas Eve, a brunch at my family’s home, a dinner at husband’s family’s home and the next day (Christmas) at our home with our children and their spouses. All of us are invited and “expected” to attend to both! We all live relatively close, so not even a lot of driving. It’s just too much. This year, my adult son said, “Mom, two parties in one day and one the next? Sorry, I can only do one party and I’ll come to yours.” That is Wisdom, not being an introvert. Next year, I will tell my loved ones the same thing. Sorry, I can only handle one party. You are welcome on Christmas Day – let me know if you can make it by such and such a date and I know I will feel welcoming and ready to see them. (After a couple of hours, when the giddiness and slurring start, I guess I can handle it – knowing it will be over soon. Some things we have to cope with.

By: nkotb5807

nkotb5807 — Fri, 01 Dec 2017 13:46:00 +0000

In reply to njguy54. I hate the forced evening socials.

By: SerenaJoy

SerenaJoy — Tue, 28 Nov 2017 22:07:00 +0000

In reply to Mary Owens. Do you still feel that way now? If so, have you had a chance to speak with someone neutral and supportive?

By: Mary Owens

Mary Owens — Tue, 28 Nov 2017 06:26:00 +0000

In reply to SerenaJoy. Thank you and I have.

By: SerenaJoy

SerenaJoy — Tue, 28 Nov 2017 05:42:00 +0000

In reply to Mary Owens. By the way, if you were serious about having had suicidal thoughts, I hope that you can get the self-care you need and deserve. Your life and health matter and your family will survive you taking a restorative break whether it is a walk or quiet time reading with the door shut. The children will respect you for it. In an airplane if oxygen masks are needed we are instructed to put our own on first before helping others so we don't pass out in the process. Be well!

By: SerenaJoy

SerenaJoy — Tue, 28 Nov 2017 03:41:00 +0000

In reply to Mary Owens. I once contemplated divorcing my spouse for this reason- because my inlaws are intensely social and at the time I was getting no quiet time in our own home for months. But we eventually worked it out between me and my mother in law and I have the space I need to cope during holidays and extended family visits. It really can drive one to the brink of upending ones life just to get some peace and quiet. Extroverts really should give introverts space and respect.

By: SerenaJoy

SerenaJoy — Tue, 28 Nov 2017 03:37:00 +0000

I used to think I was extroverted until I met my inlaws. Every holiday is a week-long marathon of meal prep, feasts, afterparties and cleaning. And out of town guests who continue to entertain at our homes even after we’ve returned to work and the kids have school in the morning. This article describes me, I realize now I’m a true introvert and after a decade of being married to this crazy but loving clan I’ve learned some tricks to pace myself and practice self-care. It’s very important to carve out a quiet space and time to recharge.

By: njguy54

njguy54 — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 03:45:00 +0000

When I go to professional conferences and spend all day talking to people, at the end of the day i feel like I’ve been up for three days straight. All I want to do is head back to my room and go to bed. Sometimes, I need to take an afternoon nap to recharge, especially if there are activities planned for the evening.

By: Aighmi J

Aighmi J — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 21:42:00 +0000

With my house full of people, I was tjrilled to