I’m a huge fan of HSP tips. Twenty years ago, when our first books were published, Elaine Aron and I had lively discussions about how our ideas complemented each other and I wrote one or two pieces for her early newsletter.

Hi Elayne. Thanks for sharing these awesome tips! 🙂

-Rejection hurts and can certainly ruin your day when you find yourself dwelling for hours or days on what someone said or did or neglected to say or do.

-Don’t fill in the blanks with my assumptions. Check it out with the other person.

-Try not to read someone’s mind or expect them to read yours.

-When your feelings are hurt it may not even be about you. What does it say about the other person?”

-Just about every rebuff from childhood is heaped atop our private rejection stockpile and we tote it around and react.

-Separate the ‘then from the now.

-Don’t allow yourself to get sidetracked or shortchanged by rejection that could be someone else’s problem. Remind yourself” “This is not about me.”

-Remember you to have choices. Try to create perspective by ‘walking alongside myself,’ noticing when I get upset and making the choice to try out a different path.”