Comments on: I’m Not Cold and Emotionless. I Have a ‘Thinking’ Personality.

By: nkotb5807

nkotb5807 — Wed, 03 Jan 2018 03:49:00 +0000

I’m an intj thinker and my husband is a feeler. Talk about a weird dynamic that no one understands.
I’ve been called an ice queen more than once. I do have feelings, but they are deep in there. Deeeep in there.

By: Fiona Kat

Fiona Kat — Sun, 17 Dec 2017 08:28:00 +0000

I’m an ISTP and this is basically the story of my life. A whole lot of condemnation for not being as expressively emotional about things as my extroverted family demand. I’ve been called all kinds of cruel names over the years – cold, mean, uncaring.

By: Dave

Dave — Wed, 06 Dec 2017 12:35:00 +0000

I am am INTJ through and through. My wife is an EFSJ and your example of Thinking Husband / Feeling Wife is an almost everyday story for us. We balance each other out in life, and love each other strongly, but so often I miss the point pretty severely and am accused of “just not getting it”. I am always told to “stop trying to fix things” when of course I’m thinking I’m being super helpful… =(

By: njguy54

njguy54 — Wed, 29 Nov 2017 22:12:00 +0000

Introverts with a “thinking” personality can drive those with more “feeling” personalities crazy, and vice versa. It’s easy for us Thinkers to dismiss Feelers as drama queens, neurotic and even manic. And I can speak from experience how Feelers accuse Thinkers of being cold, uncaring, aloof, self-centered, Stoic (that used to be an insult), detached — or even worse, depressed and even autistic. I’m sure that if many Thinkers had a penny for every time someone “diagnosed” them with Aspberger’s, they would have many pennies. Forums like this are invaluable for helping Thinkers and Feelers to understand one another — as well as themselves — better.

By: Jill Miclean

Jill Miclean — Thu, 16 Nov 2017 04:51:00 +0000

ISTJ – this is the story of my life.

By: Miklin van Amerom

Miklin van Amerom — Tue, 14 Nov 2017 15:48:00 +0000

As an INTJ, I can relate.