Comments on: What INFJs want in a relationship

By: Janey

Janey — Tue, 30 Aug 2016 12:27:26 +0000

INFJs do like emotional closeness, but sometimes bringing up emotional issues is tough for them. I find my INFJ boyfriend defaults to safety of the superficial. It’s up to me to start a conversation that’s deeper. Online I found a list of 200+ questions to ask your significant other, including family dynamics, politics, religion, finances, sexuality, morality, etc. At first I thought he would consider it invasive, but recently he mentioned [wistfully] that we’d only discussed 50 of them.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 01 Apr 2015 01:47:21 +0000

“Because of our sensitive nature, we INFJs literally absorb other people’s emotions at times.”

I don’t do that, anymore. I’m a counselor who practices are REBT with my clients; I also used it on myself, which allowed me to learn the art of rational thinking, which does not allow for absorbing the emotions of others.

By: Monique

Monique — Sun, 29 Mar 2015 03:53:16 +0000

This articulated all of the things I’ve been feeling lately but didn’t know how to make clear. Wow! I’ve been wondering if I’m some sort of a commitment-phobe but perhaps I’ve just been trusting my gut.

By: Aradia

Aradia — Fri, 27 Mar 2015 19:43:57 +0000

“Someone who respects our independent nature and need for occasional solitude”… That is so necessary.
I recently ended up being interrogated by my partner, who would refuse to believe that I occasionally go to the cinema by myself… simply because that’s what I like to do! I think the lowest point was when he asked to see the tickets and payment receipts as proof to the fact that I wasn’t cheating (?!?!). I was so outraged.
There are no words to express the sadness caused by something like that.

By: Kate (Lives Simply)

Kate (Lives Simply) — Fri, 27 Mar 2015 05:02:20 +0000

Loved this! 100% true! Like, “have you been sneaking into my room reading my journal” true. I definitely needed to see this!

By: agraves78

agraves78 — Fri, 27 Mar 2015 02:31:41 +0000

Idk if this is an INFJ thing or a woman thing, or both but… Pay attention to us. Let us know how you feel about us. Or that you are just thinking about us. Even if you’re busy, it doesn’t take much to send a quick text letting us know you’re busy, but that you are, basically, still interested. Otherwise our minds can think up all kinds of scenarios as to why we haven’t heard from you! Lol Not to mention, we could push you away because we are feeling pushed away, neglected, or just not important enough to you.

By: Jessi

Jessi — Thu, 26 Mar 2015 23:42:58 +0000

Yes, thank you i needed this 🙂 I also agree with rupalig. I have been in that situation before and it’s safe to say that you should trust your gut feeling, if it doesnt feel right you are probably correct and being pressured into being in a relationship is the worse! Dont be scared to say “no.” be firm.

By: RupaliG

RupaliG — Thu, 26 Mar 2015 01:25:54 +0000

Yes on don’t let anyone talk you into a relationship that doesn’t feel right! I can’t count how many infj’s may have given into other people’s pressure. Great article.