Comments on: 4 Mistakes Extroverted Parents Make With Their Introverted Kids

By: Krissie

Krissie — Wed, 12 Apr 2017 16:07:00 +0000

In reply to Gigi. I do that as well, because so often I get ridiculed for giving my opinion, but if I choose to sit there with a book and just listen while I read, I'm 'being a snob', but it's fine for them to sit on their phones.

By: Gigi

Gigi — Wed, 29 Mar 2017 17:57:00 +0000

Parents should also be aware that introvert children might become a bit more easygoing and uninhibited when the parent is absent. Even now as an adult, I often find myself holding back in group conversations with other people if my parents are present, as if I’m just their understudy.

By: njguy54

njguy54 — Tue, 28 Mar 2017 22:03:00 +0000

Wow. I wish I had a time machine so I could take this post back to my mother when I was young. She was quite the extrovert and was always after me to talk more, make more friends, get involved in more activities, etc. Some of this might have been trying to compensate for my being an only child, and could never understand why I wanted to be quiet and left alone.

By: Rupali G

Rupali G — Tue, 28 Mar 2017 16:50:00 +0000

3 and 4 stick out to me, as this can relate to us introverted adults too. It’s not just parents who push us to socialize more and be in friendships that we don’t want to be in, but our extroverted adult friends can be pushy too. Has any introvert experienced this? Let’s say you have a bad gut feeling about someone in your friend circle, but an extrovert insists that you continue to stay friends with that person.

When I look at the failed friendships in my life, they all have one thing in common. There was an extroverted third party insisting that I stay in a friendship that wasn’t right for me. Some extroverts thought that me having tons of friends would make my adult life happier, but that doesn’t seem to be the case. When a forced friendship doesn’t work out, it should be no surprise. Chances are the introvert didn’t even want to be in that friendship, or they secretly had a lot of doubts. When it comes to my best friendships, these were people that I genuinely liked. Nobody had to push me or convince me to be their friend.

By: Rupali G

Rupali G — Tue, 28 Mar 2017 14:50:00 +0000

Good article. It’s not just extroverted parents who push us into unwanted friendships, but some extroverted adult friends can also be pushy. Have an introverts on here had a bad gut feeling about someone, only to have an extrovert in your life say, “you should be friends with so and so” or “you should date that person and give them a chance.”

When it comes to the friendships that failed in my life, they all had one thing in common. An extroverted third party had encouraged me to be friends with that person, because they thought that having “tons and tons” of friends would help me. But, their suggestions weren’t helpful. Forced friendships don’t last, because they aren’t your choice to begin with. The best friendships I have had were natural, and were ones that I willingly wanted to enter. I think it’s the quality of the friendship that matters, and not how many you have. That’s something that some of the extroverts in my life don’t understand. Being able to connect intellectually and emotionally with your friends is one of the best feelings. Without that, a friendship can feel empty.