Comments on: Introverts Don’t Hate People, They Hate Shallow Socializing

By: Liam Kirk

Liam Kirk — Thu, 01 Feb 2018 19:02:00 +0000

The part about socialising just to pass (waste) time is so accurate I don’t understand it.

By: Ruth Cruz

Ruth Cruz — Sat, 27 Jan 2018 07:57:00 +0000

? Breath-taking.

By: Rebecca Duff

Rebecca Duff — Fri, 26 Jan 2018 16:41:00 +0000

Yes, this is so true! Personally I hate small talk, I quite honestly don’t know what to say or talk about…. But as soon as I start feeling like “Wow, ok I got the hang of this” or “I’m starting to enjoy myself” then I let my guard down, say something stupid and make a fool out of myself –> Am I the only one that does this?

By: pigbitinmad

pigbitinmad — Tue, 16 Jan 2018 19:52:00 +0000

I am not so sure about that. I think it’s because we hate people…most people anyway.

By: Brandon Mack

Brandon Mack — Sun, 14 Jan 2018 10:17:00 +0000

This fits me to a glove. It’s hard to tell people I’m an introvert because your telling it to strangers and is something personal I don’t want to share off the bat. This makes me feel so much better!

By: kkaymccc

kkaymccc — Mon, 01 Jan 2018 00:39:00 +0000

Me. Fort Myers now…

By: mille100piedi

mille100piedi — Thu, 21 Dec 2017 21:52:00 +0000

In reply to Patricia Lulu. I am extrovert and I suffer of muscle dystrophy, I have no problem to talk about my condition. I just don't like play the victim role. I know people that like spending their time moaning this doesn't mean that their problem is worse then mine it just means that they like moaning

By: mille100piedi

mille100piedi — Thu, 21 Dec 2017 21:43:00 +0000

I am an extrovert and I usually like introverts and I like having a good conversation with them. I do like introverts that are a bit too shy to start a conversation but I don’t like introverts that feel superior to others and will not make any effort to socialize. I suffer of muscle dystrophy, I use to have a lot of energy but unfortunately now is not so much so I am very careful with whom I am going to spend my energy. Extroverts can have very deep conversation too, being an extrovert doesn’t mean being shallow and stupid. Having muscle dystrophy can be very sad and boring, but when I meet someone I certainly will not talk about how sad my life is because the person I talk to can have their problems too. I do not think too much about my situation when I am with somebody, it is not all about me, what I like or what I don’t like. If you are self cantered is not point trying to socialize because socializing is about giving and receiving. If you just pretend to take what you like is not going to work and it is going to be a very boring conversation. There is nothing wrong if you don’t like to spend time talking and socializing with others or you can’t turn a boring conversation in a very interesting one, but at the end of the day you can’t blame other people if you don’t have the skills to do so.

By: Element of Kindness

Element of Kindness — Sun, 17 Dec 2017 18:26:00 +0000

Great article!
While my younger years, I was definitely an introvert, mainly due to not having a handle on anxiety issues, and a total loss of trust of anyone who was actually trying to befriend me, because of the cruelty that younger people possessed in school. Now later in life, I’ve gotten a check on the anxiety (mostly) and in general, have somewhat become an extrovert, (easily entering conversation with anyone) however I remain anti-social, with no desire going to parties or events. In fact, I feel like I don’t belong at an event when I do go to one, the feeling being something like an outsider looking in. So not sure if I would be labeled introvert or extrovert, but either way, I can see my early year’s social development, or rather the lack of, has taken its toll upon me now. Add to that, around a decade ago, my trust in family was betrayed, when I took issue with a family member involved in immoral behavior, and apparently money was more important than family, and the rest of family sided with the immoral, but financially advantageous side. I saw a very ugly side of humans, and it was from my own family. It was then that I basically disowned my own family to prevent any more hurt, and escape a constant mental hostility. The relief was instant, but cost me a family, and haven been betrayed of trust from family, has resulted in me not being able to trust anyone enough to ever form more than a mild acquaintance with other people. (if one can’t trust in family, how can one trust in anyone?) It hurts, and I cry sometimes. I know it’s up to me if things are ever going to change, but it is really hard to tear down the barriers knowing there is very likely hurt and pain waiting on the other side.

By: John

John — Mon, 13 Nov 2017 13:23:00 +0000

In reply to Patricia Lulu. I was trying to be helpful, some of the things that the article talks about could be caused by depression.