Comments on: My Worth Is Not Defined By How Many Words Come Out of My Mouth

By: LF

LF — Sun, 24 Sep 2017 00:24:00 +0000

Men often complain that women talk too much so being quiet is probably an asset.

By: Ricardo G. González

Ricardo G. González — Mon, 18 Sep 2017 22:07:00 +0000

I just got “I´m very disappointed at you” from a co-worker after i´ve spent almost one year working hard and making a really extraordinary effort to ‘join the crowd’ that happens to be the ‘norm’ at this company (leaving the work area to go chit-chatting about ‘no onions on their food this evening’ or whatever that distracts us all from focus on OUR JOB). I answered “well, what are we gonna do about that?” with a victorious attitude on the outside, but guess what happened on the inside? I got really distracted by it and i did my next activity on the schedule all wrong! Anyway, what gets on my nerve it´s the fact that everybody seem to make mistakes for being the whole time doing this kind of thing, you know? Good news is, it hurts less now i know i´m an introvert and have embraced it as a strenght that leads to good things if focused the right way.

By: Mack

Mack — Sat, 05 Aug 2017 06:16:00 +0000

Came to this article through a Google Search today, after hearing two co-workers talking negatively about my quietness. This week, I’ve put in several 11-hour workdays, assisted my father as he was being admitted into the hospital, grieved as a friend died yesterday, and did as much as I could for my brother who’s leaving for the military in a day. You’d think after navigating this challenging week, I could feel some sort of accomplishment. But no, the week is capped off by my co-workers making fun of me for not socializing during office hours. Figures.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Wed, 12 Jul 2017 10:47:00 +0000

In reply to Bracetty Bracetty. That is so weird isn't it. That people think because we don't talk much, we're somehow unlikeable or snobby or feel superior. We're not. We're just quiet and thoughtful. Why can't people just deal with that? Its not always about them, they should realise.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Wed, 12 Jul 2017 10:45:00 +0000

Probably the best thing to do is just shrug and say, ‘yes, that’s how I am.’

By: dm

dm — Thu, 15 Jun 2017 02:29:00 +0000

I’m an introvert. When it’s safe, I talk. Generally, that’s in a 1-on-1 conversation. Lately, I’ve been around some people who are on the Red/Dominant end of the spectrum. I’m on the Blue/Submissive end, and boy do they like to steamroll me. It’s like the killer whales that “play” with the sea lions, tossing them here and there, till they devour them. “Fun” for the killer whales; “terrorizing” for the sea lions.

I’ve given them the benefit of the doubt, but, they’re back to steamrolling me, so, I have to make a decision. They’ve proven themselves to have a sick delight in hurting, controlling and steamrolling others, so, I’m backing away. They’re NOT safe.

Now, I’m not saying all Dominant personalities have a killer-whale-instinct, but some do. I’ve found the healthiest people on planet earth don’t need to steamroll anyone. They’re whole, so they don’t have to make sport of others. The thought likely doesn’t even enter their minds. But, there are those who aren’t whole. They’re broken, and they have no internal boundaries, so, we need to lay them out.

By: Bracetty Bracetty

Bracetty Bracetty — Mon, 17 Apr 2017 18:39:00 +0000

This happens to me all the time at jobs. I hate when coworkers and managers make me feel bad for not always speaking. I hate when they try to make a project out of me. “helping me get out of my shell” I also hate the most when i do speak up and they act like its the most amazing thing and say things like “look whos finale coming out of there shell’, “look who can finale speak” , “he can talk” ect ect. I hate it all so much. why does society have to be this way. When i listen to my coworkers and managers talk to each other they speak about NOTHING. just mindless conversation that means nothing. Ive also realized some coworkers hate me because i dont speak alot they literally avoid me and give me looks and say things to others about me. I hate that things are this way,

By: Tanya

Tanya — Tue, 31 Jan 2017 15:38:15 +0000

It’s very comforting to know I’m not alone and these experiences are shared. :). Courage always fails me when asked to respond to my “flaw”.

By: M.S.

M.S. — Sun, 29 Jan 2017 18:42:02 +0000

Oh this article resonates so very much with me. Have been hearing this all my life “You are too quite”. Just never knew how to respond. I have always considered it as a weakness of mine.

By: Diana Neill

Diana Neill — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 18:16:32 +0000

You sound so much like me! Thank you for this article. One thing that I am constantly facing is people telling me I’m too quiet, then when I say something, I shouldn’t have said that or it makes them mad when I say it or something that makes me regret ever opening my mouth. Sometimes I feel like I’m not allowed to talk because when I do, I’ve said the “wrong” thing.